I’m sad today.  Not the slightly down but can still force a smile sad, but the weight of the world on your shoulders, can’t focus on anything, feel like I can just break down and cry kind of sad.

I’m sad for people I will never meet.  I’m sad for strangers who are forever changed because of a shared tragedy.  I’m sad for people who are so broken inside that they feel a need to pulverize human life.  I’m sad for the city that will never be the same.  I’m sad for the athletes who train for months, years even, to participate in a piece of history; only to make history for the wrong reason.  I’m sad for the world that is crumbling.  I’m sad for a country that is no better off than every other nation that is riddled with violence.  Violence toward one another as if we are all the enemy.  I’m sad for a planet that has lost its way and is too delirious to ask for directions.

I’m not the praying type but I find myself asking, begging, for peace for every lost soul.  We are individuals that must band together and spread love.  Spread compassion.  Spread well-being.  Spread an open heart.  The actions of April 15, 2013 in Boston show that we are a puzzle missing half of the pieces.

I hope for a better world.  I’ll hold onto that dream forever.

Sad

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The Grossly Uninformed

Social media.  You love it, you hate it.  What did everyone do before Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Myspace, Google+, LinkedIn, and every other social media platform available on the world wide web?  We talked face-to-face, picked up the phone to make a call, and actually had to buy stamps to send correspondence through the mail.  It was much more difficult to demonstrate social impairment when we didn’t have a keyboard and a captive audience.  It is easier than ever to find out what makes acquaintances tick, but I’m not sure this is a good thing.  I find myself scanning my news feed and shaking my head at least once a day and not in a good way.

Debates over topics in which people are obviously uniformed, pictures that are meant to “inspire” the masses but do the exact opposite, and videos that show people doing things that in 10 years they will realize were idiotic and not nearly as funny as they thought.  Welcome to Social Media.

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Observations

This is going to be short and sweet:

If you want to learn the true character of a person observe their reactions to the following:

  1. Their favorite sports team losing an important game
  2. Discussions of money
  3. Feelings toward materialistic possessions
  4. Politics
  5. How they treat strangers
  6. Relationships with friends and family
  7. Adversity

Be forewarned:  You might not like what you discover about others and maybe even yourself.

Broken Compass

This week has shaken many of us.  Newtown is now a word used in daily conversation in the most unimaginable way.  I haven’t been able to stop thinking about the family, friends, and acquaintances of those involved affected by this tragedy.  What I find equally disturbing throughout this heartbreaking ordeal is how politicized this has become.  The discussion on how something like this happened because “God has been removed from schools” and there is not enough gun control, and the man elected President is the anti-Christ, and so on.  Are people seriously inserting their own personal beliefs and values into something that is devastating on a global scale and that involves children?  If you believe in God or not, good for you.  If you believe that gun control is too liberal or conservative, fine.  If you despise the President, that’s your prerogative.  But for the love of whomever you believe in, KEEP YOUR POLITICAL NONSENSE TO YOURSELF.  

There are lives of beautiful humans that have been taken due to the actions of a seriously sick man.  There are parents with empty homes.  Homes void of the laughter, love, and joy that they knew on Friday morning.  There are children who were robbed of the safety and security they so deserve.  There are first responders who will never be able to erase the visions from their minds of what they saw inside that school.  There are human beings who need the rest of us to support them, without the social and political implications that we are too selfish to leave behind for now.

There will be an opportunity to have discussions about whatever people feel needs to be done about the 2nd Amendment or God or whatever else people want to blame.  For now, try to mourn as loudly as you need with just your heart and not with the side of the fence your politics reside.

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Success vs. Luck

Success is meeting a goal after working hard; persevering until the end.  Luck is picking up a scratch ticket at the gas station and hitting for 50 bucks.  

Now that we cleared that up, why do people respond with saying “you’re so lucky” when you are successful in something?  I don’t forge a relationship between success and luck because I don’t think one has anything to do with the other.  Let’s say you worked tirelessly toward something by really putting in a gratuitous effort and some time later you succeeded, would you call that luck?  I would say you earned that success.  You put in the effort and traveled the road you needed to in order to achieve the result you were, hopefully, looking for.  Now if you took every shortcut you could, did the minimum amount of work necessary and are still successful then that is lucky.  

Before you offer a response to someone’s success, make sure you know which route the person took to get to the achievement and choose the appropriate reply…and then go buy a scratch ticket to see what it really means to be lucky.

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Onward and Upward

Today is a lovely day.  I’m enjoying the first of many Sundays at home as I prepare to start my career tomorrow.  I am leaving the repetitive world of retail sales and entering the exciting world of the non-profit sector.  

This adventure began in August of 2011 when I stumbled upon an online job posting for a job that I was sure was custom fit for me.  I applied for the job and, before I knew it, I was going through a series of interviews.  I was sure the job was mine.  I wowed the hiring managers, left each interview with a little more confidence than I walked in with, and felt certain that I fit the bill for what the organization was looking for.  Fast forward a couple months to when I received a phone call that I was not going to be offered the job at that time.  I was devastated.  Shattered.  How could this be?  I was positive, mostly, that I was the person they were looking for.  I broke the news to several family members and friends that I wasn’t going to get my dream job after all.  I took the hit on the chin and moved forward.

I accepted my failure but never forgot about how badly I wanted an opportunity to work for the organization that initially turned me down.  All I wanted was an opportunity to do good and honest work.  I wanted to go home at the end of the day feeling like I really made a difference and I wanted to make a difference with an organization that I am passionate about.  I wanted to be proud of what I did for work and I knew this employer would deliver all of those things.

Through an ironic stroke of luck, another position opened up and I was reconsidered for it.  Eleven months after my first interview and after a couple emails, I was sitting in front of a Director for the organization having another interview.  I had nothing to lose at this point.  I’d been through this rodeo before. My expectations were low and I was beyond thrilled to be in the office again.  Second chances are rare and I thought if it doesn’t work out this time, it’s time to hang my hat.  

Now as i write this, I am the newest employee of the organization that was the ultra-exclusive club that I just HAD to be a part of.  I am a part of a family.  A network of people who aren’t strangers but members of a team.  I am going to work with, for, and alongside true heroes.  True fighters.  True pioneers for an unselfish and relevant cause.  And so begins what I know is the start of a rewarding, successful, and fulfilling career.  All things that are worth it take effort and persistence.  This is a new venture that I will nurture and care for because I already know what it feels like to lose it.  

I can’t wait to walk into the office tomorrow at 9am to begin fulfilling my commitment to my new employer’s mission.

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An Apple a Day

I posted a blog about my decision to switch from iOS to Android not too long ago.  I’m still a fan of Apple.  As a matter of fact, the household is still dominated by mostly iOS operated devices.  

I’m not surprised to read about the iPhone 5 topping 2 million devices in the first 24 hours of pre-order availability.  A little over a month ago, I would have been one of 2 million people staying up late or waking up early to get my hands on a coveted iPhone 5.  

The release of the iPhone 5 is a little depressing.  It’s the last project that Steve Jobs personally worked on.  It’s the last creative input he had.  What’s going to happen now?  Am I still going to get excited when Apple announces a new device knowing that my business idol didn’t have a hand in it?  We shall see but I’m pretty sure I won’t.  Regardless of who designed the phone, 2 million devices is incredibly impressive.  Imagine everyone in Cupertino, CA fist-pumping all the way to the bank reaping the benefits of a phone that is closely similar to the one before it only with a new phone smell.

Kudos Apple! 

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Never Discuss Politics

Disclaimer:  One should never discuss politics with good friends but I’m going to anyway.

I am a registered Democrat.  I voted for Barack Obama in the last election and did so with confidence and hope for a better four years than the eight years prior.  There are political gaffes that have occurred during Obama’s term that I do not agree with and there are developments that have come to fruition that I have cheered for.  No relationship is perfect but, overall, I am happy with many choices President Obama has made.  Health care reform, making education more affordable for students, slow but definite job creation, and an economy that is beginning to gain momentum are all taking baby steps to a better tomorrow.

The United States is in the beginning stages of campaigning and conventions that are meant to build excitement.  Obama and Romney are coming up with new promises that they hope their supporters will believe and stand behind.  The Republican National Convention and the Democratic National Convention couldn’t have more opposing strategies.  The RNC has come and gone and seemed to have centered on an Obama-bashing free for all that included Clint Eastwood having a bizarre exchange with a chair.  Watching moments of the RNC made me feel like I was watching the jocks in high school pick on the members of the school choir.  The focus of the RNC was to build the big guys (corporations) even higher and miraculously watch the economy turn around.  If you are in college, you could have played a drinking game for every time someone poked fun of Obama and Democrats.

This morning, I took 26 minutes to listen to Michelle Obama’s speech at the DNC.  It was the best 26 minutes spent invested in politics in a long time.  Mrs. Obama’s words addressed everyone.  The First Lady’s speech was not only directed to the privileged, wealthy, and successful; it was directed to the average citizens, the middle-class, the lower-class, the upper-class.  The self-made people who have risen from nothing to create their own success.  The people who weren’t afraid to get dirt under their fingernails to make a buck.  Perhaps the most successful part of Michelle Obama’s speech wasn’t what she said but what she didn’t say.  The mention of Romney’s name was nonexistent.  So far, the strategy for the Obamas has been to address the average people.  Why use insults and quick jabs when you can let the facts speak for themselves?

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Disappearing Work Ethic

What ever happened to work ethic?  When I was a child, I remember my parents going to work everyday in “sweatshops” to bust their humps for a dollar. The amount of work they put in was substantially more than their compensation. They seldom complained because working hard to make a living was an inevitable reality. Mom and Dad were fortunate to be gainfully employed and never took their jobs for granted. To this day, my parents are the hardest working people I know and their greatest lesson to me has always been to earn every dollar through hard work and consistency.

I can’t help but notice how times have changed. The common theme today is to do as little as possible for the most amount of compensation. Gone are the days where people would work hard and have a paycheck that reflected the effort. This phenomenon works the other way, too. How many people do you know who can honestly tell you they are overworked and underpaid?  More than just a few.

The scales are unevenly tipped in both scenarios. Employers want employees who are high-production machines and employees want employers who are as generous as Santa Claus even if they didn’t earn the check based on their full potential.

Welcome to the work ethic drought. 

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Perception

How do others perceive you?  I recently had a conversation with someone who answered that very question for me. I think there’s a disconnect between how we see ourselves and how other people see us. We are with ourselves all the time and others only see a snapshot of us in a moment. We know who we are while everyone else knows the version of us we want them to know.  Maybe our true selves don’t shine through in certain situations that wouldn’t make us shine in the brightest light.  Maybe we overcompensate in areas that we know we come up short.

Then there are moments when you are going about your business and just being you. Maybe you held the door open for the ailing man struggling to open it himself. Or stayed a couple extra minutes to listen to a stranger tell you how much she misses her deceased husband. And maybe all you did was make eye contact with someone, smile, and tell them you really appreciate what they said or did. You did random things that made someone else happy because you sincerely felt it right to do that.

On the other hand, maybe you got upset because you got stuck behind the Sunday driver who has nowhere to be while you’re running late. Or you went to the movies and there are people talking loudly behind you and you said something rude to them. Or you have the right of way at an intersection but you let someone else go and they don’t wave a thank you so you throw up a choice finger and mutter an obscenity.

The way we act day to day in these situations is a small part of what our fibers are made of.

It’s the way we behave when we think no one is watching that paints the most accurate picture of who we are.

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